February 9, 2017
Are You Controlling?
Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned. ~Buddha There’s a specific kind of anger associated with control that many of us don’t recognize in ourselves. We live in a world of relative certainty where we do […]
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November 9, 2016
How to Stop Worrying about Someone You Love
Have you ever worried about someone you love? Seems like a ridiculous question, doesn’t it? It’s such a familiar feeling. We don’t want negative experiences for anyone we care about, but this constrictive sense of stress that comes with worry seems to come with the territory of loving someone. But does it have to? I bet […]
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November 1, 2016
How to Let Go of Pain
Are you holding onto anything painful big or small you need to release? Are you not able to let go of pain? “Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.”~ Haruki Murakami There’s a myth that forgiveness will allow you to forget or clear away all your pain. Maybe you’ve heard “just give it time”, and somehow […]
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September 27, 2016
How to Be Free
The best way to be free… A close friend confided “why wait” got into her head a year ago. It was something I’d been telling her all these years, and a dear friend of hers was diagnosed with cancer. My friend had spontaneously got on a plane to spend a few days in Florida with her 2 children. She loves […]
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September 11, 2016
The Way We Are Connected..an Italian Experience
Do you ever hear this idea that the way we are connected is a part of ONE divine mysterious thread? At first I tried to grasp what it meant literally. It helped me to know that we are made up of energy categorized in 4 broad categories: emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual. This last type was […]
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June 18, 2016
The Hidden Reason Why People Harm Others
I always wondered.. why people harm others. I just read about Omar Mateen killing 49 & injuring 53 in the deadliest shooting in Orlando just after I finished reading this brave, and stunning letter by the victim, “Emily Doe” who remained anonymous in the Stanford rape case. Her impact statement she read in court to […]
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April 27, 2016
What Are You Not Saying?
I often find myself in conversations saying “what you just shared with me (about a loved one), DID YOU TELL THEM?” Why are you not saying to them? There’s a pause, and then invariably…NO. It didn’t dawn on them to share that. THAT totally authentic feeling of hurt or bliss I just got to hear never […]
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March 24, 2016
How Do You Encourage Change?
We know it’s difficult to encourage change and changing other people is not only impossible, it’s not how you want to show up. Who wants to hang out with someone who’s trying to change you? Yet, we can all admit to ways we notice where change is desperately needed, and frankly how do you just […]
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February 23, 2016
Funerals Better Than Weddings ??
Last Saturday, I attended a funeral of an elderly relative where the reverend announced that she thinks funerals better than weddings because “people are more real.” Ironically the weekend before, I was at a wedding. Years go by now where I attend neither one. It made me stop, and reflect. There was more authenticity at this […]
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