Are you holding onto anything painful big or small you need to release? Are you not able to let go of pain? “Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.”~ Haruki Murakami There’s a myth that forgiveness will allow you to forget or clear away all...
I always wondered.. why people harm others. I just read about Omar Mateen killing 49 & injuring 53 in the deadliest shooting in Orlando just after I finished reading this brave, and stunning letter by the victim, “Emily Doe” who...
I often find myself in conversations saying “what you just shared with me (about a loved one), DID YOU TELL THEM?” Why are you not saying to them? There’s a pause, and then invariably…NO. It didn’t dawn on them to share...
We know it’s difficult to encourage change and changing other people is not only impossible, it’s not how you want to show up. Who wants to hang out with someone who’s trying to change you? Yet, we can all admit to ways we...
Last weekend I was having a conversation with my husband (Ok it was a heated discussion) on our 4 hour drive back from a wedding (in Ohio) about standing in your truth even when it may have a detrimental effect. How do you best share your...
I wrote an article a while back called “The Foundation of Love” – Releasing Judgments and Expectations for Tinybuddha.com when I first learned the destructive impact of judgment in our personal relationships. I still hear...
I get asked to clarify this question a lot: when am I being selfish as opposed to simply choosing what I want? Does it feel like you are chasing after the things you want? Do you find yourself trying to control, pushing hard to get somewhere, or...
It is very hard to recognize when we are blaming someone, but easy to recognize if you are the one being blamed! Why is that? We naturally feel anger, and frustration when someone fails to say or do what we need or expect because we know what...
How Do I Forgive the Unforgivable Recently I came across a free documentary called “Beyond Right and Wrong”. It addresses situations of unspeakable acts that are considered by anyone to be unforgivable. Do you have someone in your life you cannot...
People say and do things that can create a lot of hurt, frustration, and pain in our relationships. I’ve often wondered ‘how can someone do that. Why can’t people have healthier conflicts? Think that? Behave that way? What’s wrong with...
When we hurt – our emotional reactions can take us over where the pain is so overwhelming we can’t think straight, and start behaving in ways we don’t recognize as ourselves. Anger, frustration, confusion can be mixed with a...
When you put time and energy into someone whether it’s in the form of positive intentions, gift giving, staying in touch or doing anything for someone you care about or want to please, but what you receive back isn’t what you...
