Basically, the level of intimacy is through the roof. \u00a0Time\u00a0and distance no longer matter.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n With those closest to you, there will be some anger, frustration, and disappointment, but healthy relationships have space for conflict that allows the ‘truth of all you are’ to show up for your soul’s growth. No beating around the bush or hiding behind a mask here.<\/p>\n Perhaps this sounds like a tall order for our relationships, but we get what we settle for, and when it comes to all the people you choose to spend your precious time with – I urge you not to settle.<\/p>\n Finding my own personal authentic connection started me on a wildly unexpected journey into my own relationships, which I thought at the time were just fine! We don’t know what we don’t know..<\/p>\n The health of your relationships is defined by the energy you have inside to give. \u00a0Is it fearful or loving? Insecure or whole? \u00a0Apathetic or passionate? Reactive or curious? Disengaged or interested? The closer you connect to your ‘higher vibration’ authenticity, which is your personal version of what’s true, beautiful, and good on your particular adventure \u00a0– the more you have to give in healthy ways.<\/p>\n Authentic Connection => Healthy relationships => Love Flows in<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n As I started giving from my own increasing authenticity, I noticed the depth of my conversations began changing with friends & family members who’d say goodbye with a huge hug, and “I love you”. At first, it felt like the strangest thing.<\/p>\n What comes back from your authentic connection is a matching vibration of someone else bringing their authentic energy, and that undeniable, undefinable thing called love flows in at new levels. Healthy relationships blossom.<\/p>\n It can be one conversation or a lifetime connection. What\u2019s awesome is what\u2019s authentic varies all over the map to create the relationships you want most.<\/p>\n To get here, I had to stop doing what I thought was expected, and face disappointing or angering someone. It didn’t mean stepping all over people\u2019s toes, but learning when, and where it was appropriate to say, and show up with what was true for me.<\/p>\n You will discover someone\u2019s authenticity by being vulnerable, and genuinely curious about other people. Over time, your authentic energy will invite people in without any words – your presence feels safe to others when you are true to yourself.<\/p>\n I needed the courage to fail, doubt myself, look stupid, and let go of some people along the way. We’re all on our own authentic path, and the degree to which you can trust yourself here makes a difference.<\/p>\n It doesn’t matter what you give – someone else can mistrust, demand, pull back, get annoyed, take you personally, even judge you! \u00a0For the first time, my choices pissed some people off, and I had to be OK with that.<\/p>\n Their opposition reminded me that I was living by my own rules, and you cannot please everyone. But when you are both in your true nature – you can oppose, and still love.<\/p>\n As you begin doing more of what makes your heart sing that feels right for you – you\u2019ll discover signs about your own true nature that were there all along. Why a particular song resonated. Mysterious things you were drawn to. People that made an impression. Experiences you long for.<\/p>\n Whatever brings you joy is authentic to you, and happy<\/em> is not the same as joy.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n Happiness can fade when we’re seeking it from the outside, while joy is everlasting because we become it first, which brings lasting happiness to us in the unique way we desire.<\/p>\n Authentic connection takes you on an inner spiritual journey of attuning to your inner light, which is the spark for developing your healthiest relationships.<\/p>\n You become transparent with yourself first and foremost. No denying, or pretending that this is working for you when it is not. If you are not experiencing full on JOY, LOVE & LAUGHTER where your soul feels alive in your closest relationships, your authentic light is still waiting to be ignited.<\/p>\n 1) Trust yourself for what feels aligned. Whatever feels joyful, fun, easy, loving \u2013 follow that bliss.<\/p>\n 2) Notice the little things you used to enjoy or what you long to enjoy (like dancing, getting away for a night, staying up until 2 am with a bottle of wine, making love in the moonlight, painting, singing, going after your dreams in some small way..).<\/p>\n 3) Be ready to question what the F#%* you\u2019re doing actually following your bliss (people will think you’re crazy, including you), but trust and go with it anyway.<\/p>\n 4) Don\u2019t feel guilty for doing what brings you joy. Other people are responsible for their joy. Remind yourself that you have more to give from this place.<\/p>\n 5) Expect to be pleasantly surprised with synchronicities that keep becoming more frequent, and unbelievable because when your soul lights up, magic happens. That\u2019s the universe having your back.<\/p>\n 6) Create healthy boundaries. Limit time & energy spent with anyone including long-time friends, and relatives where it feels toxic, draining or simply not engaging. It doesn’t mean you become irresponsible – it means you protect your energy with people.<\/p>\n 7) Practice being compassionately honest with what you feel needs to be shared (as opposed to demand or complain) even if the reaction you may get is negative.<\/p>\n 8) Honour that privacy is a right. Your truth belongs to you. Some secrets are yours to keep as long as you’re in harmony & not lying to yourself. If you’re feeling guilty, you’re either out of internal alignment or attached to someone else’s truth you believe should be yours.<\/p>\n 9) Say NO to what\u2019s not working, and YES to what is. Especially when it feels hard to do.<\/p>\n 10) Get to know thyself deeper. Discover your enneagram type<\/a>. \u00a0Knowing my type for the past decade (recommend Dr. David Daniels\u00a0here<\/a>\u00a0) has helped me step more into owning who I am. It\u2019s what I describe as your energetic authentic style, and one of the\u00a0best tools for building healthy relationships.<\/p>\n P.S. Jumping for joy <\/em>are my son’s friends – he loved taking that photo at our family cottage. My joy? Seeing my son experiencing healthy relationships through his authentic connection.<\/em><\/p>\n I couldn\u2019t tell you what authentic connection meant until I found myself taking an on-line writing course 14 years ago. My mind was saying \u201cwhat are you doing, you\u2019re an accountant?!\u201d That was the beginning of discovering through my own authentic connection how the healthiest relationships could develop. By healthy, I mean the kind where […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":6772,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_mo_disable_npp":"","_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[55,52],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-6755","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-authenticity-truth","category-love-connection"],"acf":[],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/carolynhidalgo.com\/staging\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6755","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/carolynhidalgo.com\/staging\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/carolynhidalgo.com\/staging\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/carolynhidalgo.com\/staging\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/carolynhidalgo.com\/staging\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6755"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/carolynhidalgo.com\/staging\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6755\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":9349,"href":"https:\/\/carolynhidalgo.com\/staging\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6755\/revisions\/9349"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/carolynhidalgo.com\/staging\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/6772"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/carolynhidalgo.com\/staging\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6755"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/carolynhidalgo.com\/staging\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6755"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/carolynhidalgo.com\/staging\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=6755"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}Discovering Your Authentic Connection First<\/h3>\n
What It Takes to Live More Authentically<\/h3>\n
There are no Guarantees<\/h3>\n
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The Feeling of Authenticity – Joy versus Happy<\/h3>\n
10 Steps to Your Healthy Relationships through Authentic Connection<\/h2>\n
Want to learn more\u00a0about how to find your authentic connection or your enneagram type? Email me at carolyn@carolynhidalgo.com<\/a> to set up an introductory soul conversation.<\/h5>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"