Men vs women is a centuries-old debate.<\/p>\n
Throughout history, it may appear\u00a0men hate more in opposition with the dominance of men\u2019s power in the world, wars fought primarily by men, domestic violence against women, and let\u2019s not forget about testosterone.<\/p>\n
Something that women seem to be better at than men: opposing without hatred.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n ~Sir Mark Rylance, t<\/em>he Oscars, Feb\u00a02017<\/em><\/p>\n When I first heard these words, it did seem<\/em> like women were better at avoiding hatred.<\/p>\n According to the Mayo Clinic, the normal testosterone range for the average adult male is 270-1070 ng\/dL compared to only 15-70 ng\/dL for females.<\/p>\n Aggression is hormonally influenced.<\/p>\n But does\u00a0one gender actually hate<\/em> more, or have women simply had to suppress their opposition given their relative lack of power, and resources available to them?<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Cultural, social, and economic factors obviously play a huge role, but there are significant differences between how men, and women handle opposition.<\/p>\n When it comes to men vs women, we are wired differently.<\/p>\n Men can brawl in a sport, or shout with their egos in the boardroom, and when it\u2019s over walk away with no hate. It\u2019s as if that moment was simply part of dealing with the issue at hand, and they move on.<\/p>\n You\u2019ve probably noticed how men\u00a0generally don\u2019t feel the level of guilt women do as a response to internal opposition. \u201cMommy guilt\u201d runs rampant, but daddy guilt? Not so much. It\u2019s not because men care less about their children!<\/p>\n And what about the gossip, and sheer nastiness that goes on among women in opposition that doesn\u2019t appear to be the way most men oppose each other?<\/p>\n If you missed this 10-minute video clip on men vs women<\/span><\/a> \u2013 funny & insightful on our differences!<\/p>\n The reality is aggressiveness is not necessarily destructive. We need this quality to defend ourselves if we\u2019re being attacked, or someone tries to take advantage of us.<\/p>\n It\u2019s desirable in situations calling for immediate action or competitive environments where getting results is the name of the game.<\/p>\n How do we move from aggression to hate? It seems we\u2019re seeing hate, and chaos more these days. What is going on when whole countries are divided?<\/p>\n Hate is really extreme anger against someone you are condemning. It\u2019s the energy you hold when you are judging someone<\/a>. We all have situations where someone has wronged us where its reasonable to defend ourselves, and we absolutely need to do that.<\/p>\n But when you become defensive, and attacking – you are taking your own hate and using it to judge someone back.<\/p>\n It’s not easy.<\/p>\n There\u2019s a new collective consciousness we\u2019re seeing worldwide:<\/p>\n A lot of us are familiar with the psychological construct of narcissism as applied to an individual: someone who is grandiose and overconfident on the outside, but needy and vulnerable underneath.<\/p>\n But collective narcissism is something different: it is when someone exhibits an exaggerated belief in the superiority of their in-group, be that a gang, religion or nation, but deep down feels doubtful about their group\u2019s prestige and therefore craves its recognition by others.<\/p><\/blockquote>\nLook around your own life \u2013 do the men you know hate more than the women?<\/h2>\n
How often have you known a man to hang onto resentment or bring up the past in excruciating detail the way a woman can?<\/h2>\n
It just can\u2019t be at the cost of hate, which leads to drama, violence, and broken relationships. Even murder.<\/h2>\n
The Missing Link<\/h3>\n
How do you oppose without hatred when you\u2019ve been attacked unjustly?<\/h2>\n