How to Restore Balance<\/a>\u00a0(2 minutes)<\/p>\nJon defines mindfulness as “paying attention on purpose, in the present moment, non-judgmentally<\/strong>.”<\/p>\nThere’s a widely held belief that\u00a0non-judgment means having NO\u00a0good or bad thoughts towards anything. Also that meditation\u00a0in stillness requires\u00a0having ‘no thought’ to clear your mind. I don’t exactly agree.<\/p>\n
You have between 50,000-70,000 thoughts a\u00a0day, and majority of it is\u00a0‘negative noise’ – you can’t just turn them all off! It’s more about noticing the thoughts you are choosing to think from a deeper\u00a0awareness, and how they are affecting you.<\/p>\n
Judging anything as\u00a0‘right\/wrong’ or ‘good\/bad’ tends to\u00a0lead\u00a0to an\u00a0‘inferior\/superior’ or ‘better\/worse’\u00a0perception\u00a0where the ego shows up so\u00a0I find it’s more valuable to ask:<\/p>\n
\n- Is this healthy or unhealthy for my well-being?”<\/li>\n
- Is this thought constructive or destructive to how I feel?”<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
In short – is this\u00a0working for me?<\/p>\n
There’s a difference between stress that’s destructive to your well-being,<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\nand struggle that helps you\u00a0grow.<\/strong><\/p>\nSome\u00a0of us strive in chaos.\u00a0As a financial executive, my husband is one of them. He’s drawn\u00a0to\u00a0companies that\u00a0need major upheavals to survive, and thrive. He enjoys this environment, and like\u00a0most guys – getting results\u00a0is highly motivating \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n
It’s one of his strengths: staying calm enough to focus on key areas that require his attention\u00a0when numerous\u00a0balls are in the air. Which ones do you allow to drop?<\/p>\n
This kind of\u00a0‘chaos’\u00a0is really a ‘challenge’, or ‘struggle’ which can be\u00a0exciting where\u00a0things are moving, and grooving. There’s endless things to do that involves\u00a0new learning, and solving problems – all great stuff!<\/p>\n
The problem is if\u00a0anything consumes so much\u00a0time & energy (even what\u00a0you enjoy) when you finally stop to slow down, you end up\u00a0putting a plug\u00a0in the wheel of all the ‘doing’.<\/p>\n
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