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Living from love not fear requires self-management of our ego\u2019s \u2018inner critic<\/strong>\u2018 that finds fault, and your \u2018inner judge<\/strong>\u2018 that condemns. Making ourselves, and others\u00a0wrong <\/strong>fills our world with\u00a0drama, gossip, and unnecessary conflict.<\/p>\n It\u2019s based on an underlying fear<\/strong> striving to avoid \u201cI am not _____ enough, and won\u2019t be loved unless I\u2019m________ . \u00a0Some far reaching ideal instead of an acceptance that no matter what lessons we need to learn, and grow from, you are already whole, worthy, and deserving of love.<\/strong><\/p>\n Your ego says \u201cwhat\u2019s wrong with you<\/strong>?\u201d It is the experience<\/strong> of going over \u00a0in your mind I\u00a0could have, should have, would have if only I______ with an energy of blame, punishment, and regret<\/em>\u2026STOP, slow down, and recognize this is the ego attacking your well-being<\/strong>.<\/p>\n Believe there is a higher purpose for everything that happens (it may not be pleasant), but ask yourself \u2018what is the gift<\/strong> I can take from this experience?\u2019 Lean into your own self-love<\/strong>\u00a0to assess<\/em> what could have, should have, would have<\/em> happened differently had I________ with an energy of compassion, understanding, and suppor<\/em>t so you have the space to learn, and grow<\/strong>.<\/p>\n Feel the energy here, and recognize this is the love you deserve<\/strong> because none of us are wrong<\/em><\/strong>\u00a0in a given moment- we\u2019re human, and we make choices that do not always serve us. It does not mean absolving responsibility, but apologizing when we\u2019ve consciously or unconsciously chosen a destructive or hurtful path<\/strong>.<\/p>\n When you practice living from a place of self-love<\/strong>\u00a0 you\u2019ll begin to develop a stronger, healthier spirit<\/strong> where you don\u2019t beat yourself up knowing all we can ever do is our best. \u00a0You may feel sad, bad, angry, whatever emotion<\/strong> that expresses your own disappointment<\/strong> with what you chose.<\/p>\n Your emotions help you to recognize your own values that are being stepped on. <\/strong>You are upset for a reason\u00a0\u2013 what is it for you? A strong work ethic<\/strong> you didn\u2019t hold yourself to? Respect<\/strong> for someone you lost in a moment of anger? Kindness<\/strong> you didn\u2019t give when someone didn\u2019t follow your \u2018right way<\/strong>\u2018? Use your emotions to stand up<\/strong>\u00a0for your values instead of allowing your ego to punish, and blame.<\/p>\n When others mis-step<\/strong> in their lives based on how they understand the world, doing their best, how do you treat them? With blame, punishment, and anger<\/strong> or compassion, curiosity and understanding<\/strong>? Are they willing to listen? Do they take responsibility<\/strong> for their behaviour when it is destructive or do they justify, or make excuses?<\/p>\n I\u2019ve heard the EGO described as \u201cEdging God Out<\/strong><\/a>\u201c, and I couldn\u2019t agree more. \u00a0Allowing the ego\u2019s voice to dominate your thinking creates the experiences of guilt, resentment, unworthiness, blame, and unforgiveness<\/strong>.<\/p>\n There is a light<\/strong>, a God fragment, a spirit of love within each of us. Some call it our soul<\/strong>. When we lose our connection to this part of us, love<\/strong> gets blocked by our ego<\/strong>.<\/p>\n The tricky part about our relationships is not only managing our own ego<\/strong>, but understanding where someone else lives in their ego<\/strong>. Often when we are in conflict<\/strong>, our egos are fighting with each other! If one person is unable to see their ego, and condemns you, your best choice is to walk away because it becomes destructive<\/strong> to you.<\/p>\n The ego has you believing you know everything, are superior<\/strong> to others, and you become blind<\/strong> to only your way of seeing where you will be imposing<\/strong> your will certain you are right<\/strong>. You will unknowingly show up as demanding, controlling, and self-serving<\/strong>. Those who live from this place do not realize their true impact on others, and why people turn away from them.<\/p>\n A spiritual friend described the ego as the culmination of\u00a0pre-determined thought patterns that lie within you from your emotional experience based in fear<\/strong>. We choose our own thoughts, but how we think is affected by our painful experiences, which is why blaming<\/strong> is futile. How can you blame someone who is living from their own pain? What they need is healing<\/strong>, but this path can only be self-initiated<\/strong>, not imposed.<\/p>\n What difficult memories<\/strong>\u00a0do you hold where you see yourself as a failure<\/strong>\u00a0(beating yourself up) allowing that \u2018thought pattern<\/strong>\u2018 to determine your choices today? Where do you play the victim<\/strong>\u00a0(it\u2019s all my fault\/poor me\/blaming yourself) fearing it will happen again if you don\u2019t put up that wall<\/strong> of false protection your ego has created?<\/p>\n Your ego will tell you \u2013 be afraid, stay safe<\/strong> instead of trusting you can step into your own fear<\/strong>, take responsibility to change direction towards being vulnerable. \u00a0<\/strong>You can be authentic here \u2013 BE YOU with your own experience, and make the mis-steps you need to live true<\/strong> to yourself where the ups, and downs show up, and can be embraced.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n You will find yourself experiencing deeper love\u00a0<\/strong>on all levels of your mind, body, and soul<\/strong> when you practice creating a space where no one gets to be wrong \u2013 the ego<\/strong> is not present here, and love without conditions or love without fear for others <\/a><\/strong>finally shows up.<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Living from love not fear requires self-management of our ego\u2019s \u2018inner critic\u2018 that finds fault, and your \u2018inner judge\u2018 that condemns. Making ourselves, and others\u00a0wrong fills our world with\u00a0drama, gossip, and unnecessary conflict. It\u2019s based on an underlying fear striving to avoid \u201cI am not _____ enough, and won\u2019t be loved unless I\u2019m________ . \u00a0Some […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_mo_disable_npp":"","_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[52],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2659","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-love-connection"],"acf":[],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/carolynhidalgo.com\/staging\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2659","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/carolynhidalgo.com\/staging\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/carolynhidalgo.com\/staging\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/carolynhidalgo.com\/staging\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/carolynhidalgo.com\/staging\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2659"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/carolynhidalgo.com\/staging\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2659\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":9408,"href":"https:\/\/carolynhidalgo.com\/staging\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2659\/revisions\/9408"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/carolynhidalgo.com\/staging\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2659"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/carolynhidalgo.com\/staging\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2659"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/carolynhidalgo.com\/staging\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2659"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}