{"id":2177,"date":"2012-12-21T08:44:59","date_gmt":"2012-12-21T15:44:59","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/carolynhidalgo.com\/\/?p=2177"},"modified":"2023-03-22T10:12:56","modified_gmt":"2023-03-22T10:12:56","slug":"deepening-your-connections-this-holiday-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/carolynhidalgo.com\/staging\/deepening-your-connections-this-holiday-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Deepening Your Connections this Holiday"},"content":{"rendered":"

Are you looking forward to spending time with your friends and family over the holidays? And, deepening your connections? Can you share what\u2019s really going on in your life or is it mostly surface<\/em><\/strong> talk?<\/p>\n

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Last week I celebrated one of my favourite times of the year \u2013 our annual Xmas tea with my self-care sisters. The sandwiches are to die for (thank you Brenda!), homemade scones, shortbread, and jams..it\u2019s over the top Yummy, but the best<\/em> <\/strong>part?<\/p>\n

Spending\u00a0time with friends where I get to BE ME<\/em><\/strong>. There is genuine laughter, tears, fun, sharing, and an indescribable feeling of love emotionally and spiritually<\/em> <\/strong>that goes beyond the surface into vulnerability with a deep sense of caring,support, and championing each other.\u00a0We share our struggles, and our celebrations. Our hopes, fears, and dreams.<\/p>\n

How do you create this level of connection with the people in your life? I didn\u2019t always have these friendships, but it began when I started looking within, letting go of how I thought I should be<\/em><\/strong>, let go of the fears of what anyone thinks, and instead followed my heart into what I loved most, valued, and honoured for what matters to me.<\/p>\n

Here are some simple steps for deepening your connections\u2026<\/p>\n

1) Get curious<\/em><\/strong> about people. Notice their energy -is it negative and complaining? Notice your energy \u2013 is it negative and complaining? Let go of any of that energy within you first, and avoid people who choose to constantly criticize. It\u2019s draining, and creates drama.<\/p>\n

2) Hang out with people who are open, and non-judgmental<\/em><\/strong>. It will shift your energy to a higher vibration of love and connection, and attract people to you because when you stop criticizing and judging, you become someone people can trust \u2013 people feel safe with you because you accept them as they are.<\/p>\n

3) Be genuinely interested<\/em><\/strong> in everyone. We all have what\u2019s \u2018really going on\u2019, and what we tell people. Most don\u2019t share deeply because we are to afraid to ask and sound \u2018too personal\u2019. Let it go. Most don\u2019t share because no one asks. Ask, and you may be surprised at how deep a conversation will go. If they don\u2019t want to share, they won\u2019t. If they think you\u2019re being nosy, their energy is critical, and you need to do step 1) avoid these people.<\/p>\n

This does work for \u2018family\u2019 too with the caveat that \u2018social norms\u2019 have been established, and the space is smaller to play in. There are \u2018rules and expectations\u2019 to follow unless you want to risk conflict so tread carefully..criticism and judgment tends to be strongest here, and you may choose not to want to face that. Family likes us to be \u2018happy\u2019 their way. Notice if you are critical of them, and let it go. Notice what happens.<\/p>\n

We \u2018sisters\u2019 chose a theme for 2013. For me its Focus with a balance between BEING and DOING. I used to be all about getting things done, and discovered I wasn\u2019t living in the present moment<\/em><\/strong>. Then I shifted way over to BEING \u2013 massive personal growth, self-awareness, and huge transformation. I want to bring these together for 2013 to help people live more authentically in their relationships \u2013 just BE YOU. There\u2019s such freedom<\/em><\/strong> here!!<\/p>\n

My\u00a0\u2018sisters\u2019 chose simplicity, balance, staying grounded, and contribution. Any of these ring true for you? \u00a0Where are you now? Are things where you want them to be? What\u2019s working and not working? What\u2019s coming up for you that you want to put your attention on in 2013? Where your intention, and attention goes, energy flows, and things will flow to you in amazing ways.<\/p>\n

Try asking someone this holiday who you are genuinely interested in \u2013 what one word describes a shift you want to make in 2013? \u00a0Share how you are working on deepening your connections this holiday\u2026<\/p>\n

P.S. If you haven\u2019t seen my new video sharing my message of becoming judgment-free, please take a peek\u00a0here<\/a><\/p>\n

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