{"id":2290,"date":"2022-10-21T09:58:59","date_gmt":"2022-10-21T09:58:59","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/carolynhidalgo.com\/staging\/?page_id=2290"},"modified":"2022-11-04T11:27:39","modified_gmt":"2022-11-04T11:27:39","slug":"vision","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/carolynhidalgo.com\/staging\/vision\/","title":{"rendered":"Vision"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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\u201cAlways Push Yourself \nto the Next Level\u201d<\/h1>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Imagine: A Judgment-free World<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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We can judge We can judge something as \u201cgood or bad\u201d and \u201cright or wrong\u201d based on our own experience and beliefs to help make our best decisions, but judging someone is very different because it leads to controlling and condemning thoughts against a fellow human being for not following our \u201cright way\u201d.\n

\nHave you ever felt someone being controlling towards you? How about someone who condemns you? It can be for something you said or did that is right or good for you in your life, but someone happens to not agree according to their life view.\n

\nDetermining for ourselves what\u2019s right and wrong based on our own truth is necessary. This is called discernment. Judgment, on the other hand, takes a moral position of what you may believe is right and imposes your will onto others using inappropriate control, power or influence.\n

\nFreedom and the ability to be yourself disappears in the space where judgment is present.\n\n<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t

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When I found myself being judged (morally condemned) by a close friend, I was devastated, confused, and angry. I responded in defensiveness, feelings of resentment, and a deep sense of betrayal.\n

\nI blamed her for behaving in ways I considered to be the opposite of what a friendship means for me: trust and acceptance that someone has your back even if you disagree.\n

\nUntil that moment, I\u2019d never felt hatred or the depth of ill will towards anyone in my whole life. I was in my early 40\u2019s and of course had met people I didn\u2019t respect, like or get along with, but THIS was different.\n

\nI had an\u00a0epiphany when I realized what I was doing: I was judging her for judging me!<\/strong>\n

\nI couldn\u2019t forgive her in this place and I was the one creating my own angst.\n

\nMany questions arose: what does it mean to judge someone? If you think someone is being judgmental, aren\u2019t you judging them? Don\u2019t we need to judge right from wrong?<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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The Confusion Around Judgment<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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The word judgment is described when you have a first impression of someone \u2013 good or bad. It\u2019s been used to state a belief or make an assumption. It\u2019s also been used to make an assessment or draw a conclusion.\n

\nThese are all ways to discern what\u2019s right and wrong for ourselves, which is an important part of making healthy productive decisions.\n

\nWhat\u2019s destructive when it comes to judgment happens when your \u2018right view\u2019 becomes \u201cmy way or the highway\u201d for someone else. When you become morally opposed to someone because of their choices, then proceed to condemn, demonize, bully, control or attack them in your thoughts and actions.\n

\nThe use of influence, power or control in any form that demands, imposes or requires someone else to follow your way regardless of how they feel or what they think creates a space that breaks down our relationships.\n

\nIt\u2019s the feelings of contempt, disdain, disgust and scorn that accompany judgment where we despise, loathe or take personal offence to someone that causes separation, and irreconcilable differences.\n

\nThese destructive emotions can lead to hatred, and painful suffering. It\u2019s the cause of so many unresolvable conflicts, grudges, and an inability to forgive someone.\n

\nJudging other people fosters controlling, condemning and entitled behavior with a need to be right. It can lead to cruel punishment we justify of those we judge \u2014 because \u201cthey\u201d don\u2019t fit into our version of what\u2019s right for \u201cus\u201d.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t

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Judgment attacks\u00a0who you are<\/em>\u00a0and fosters shame, while criticism attacks\u00a0what you do<\/em>\u00a0and fosters guilt.\n

\nFor example, judgment is \u201chow could you be so stupid \u2013 what an idiot you are! \u00a0Criticism is \u201cyou shouldn\u2019t have made such a stupid decision \u2013 what were you thinking?\n

\nBoth judgment and criticism imply \u201cwhat\u2019s wrong with you?\u201d, and this attacking energy is in opposition to our spiritual nature of kindness, compassion, and love. There\u2019s no space for patience and understanding when someone is already wrong in your eyes.\n

\nOur world is overflowing with criticism and judgment, especially in social media, but also rampant throughout our systems of government, education, charities and even the justice system.\n

\nIt starts in our homes that filter out into our communities. Entire countries are feeling divided by the overwhelming way people criticize and judge, creating a world of us against them of major issues instead of spaces where we can come together to hear both sides.\n<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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Judgment attacks who you are<\/em>\u00a0and fosters shame, while criticism attacks\u00a0what you do<\/em>\u00a0and fosters guilt.\n

\nFor example, judgment is \u201chow could you be so stupid \u2013 what an idiot you are! \u00a0Criticism is \u201cyou shouldn\u2019t have made such a stupid decision \u2013 what were you thinking?\n

\nBoth judgment and criticism imply \u201cwhat\u2019s wrong with you?\u201d, and this attacking energy is in opposition to our spiritual nature of kindness, compassion, and love. There\u2019s no space for patience and understanding when someone is already wrong in your eyes.\n

\nOur world is overflowing with criticism and judgment, especially in social media, but also rampant throughout our systems of government, education, charities and even the justice system.\n\nIt starts in our homes that filter out into our communities. Entire countries are feeling divided by the overwhelming way people criticize and judge, creating a world of us against them of major issues instead of spaces where we can come together to hear both sides.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t

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On some level, most of us understand\u00a0it\u2019s not OK to judge someone, but how does it apply in practice?\n

\nIt goes back to a Universal principle\u00a0found in every major faith: the Golden Rule. Treat people the way you want to be treated.\n

\nWho wants to feel judged? Yet we treat people to our judgment all the time and justify it.\n

\nOur own sense of right through our own narrow lens that makes someone else wrong fuels judgmental thinking instead of staying open, curious, and seeking to understand the choices and lens other people hold.\n

\nA Divine Connection We Share\n

\nWe each carry a divine fragment within us. The idea that \u201cthe Kingdom of God is within\u201d or \u201cHeaven is within you\u201d connects us to something much bigger than ourselves.\n

\nWe are an evolving consciousness where the light of God is evolving through your experiences with decisions based on how you choose to think.\n

\nDeep within are values of \u201ctruth, beauty, and goodness\u201d that can easily get lost navigating our external world. Judging someone means we\u2019re disconnected from our own inner light.\n

\nGod does not judge us. This universal divine force is non-judgmental, compassionate, and merciful.\n

\nBeing with someone without judgment when things go wrong or when we don\u2019t agree can end the cycle of guilt, shame, and blame. It\u2019s a war within us.\n

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\u201cIn the 20th century alone, close to 200 million human beings were killed by other human beings\u2026a dysfunction in the human mind prevents us from perceiving other human beings and Nature as part of who we are. With a voice in the head that is continuously judging, criticizing, and conceptualizing, we are unable to see that every life form is as alive and sacred as we are.\u201d<\/em><\/p>

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I am currently writing my first book:\u00a0Overcoming Judgment: How Allowing You to Be You Lets Me Be Me. \u00a0<\/strong>My goal is\u00a0to help readers recognize when they are judging someone, and show them how to stop.\n

\nYour feedback, and experiences with judgment have been helping me put this difficult topic together.\n

\nI believe the spiritual foundation, and our ascension path for all healthy relationships is non-judgment, which requires becoming aligned with our soul on this journey together.\n

\nWe are here to learn how to love one another unconditionally meaning without judgment.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t

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