Do You Know What You Want in 2021?
The first time I heard that most people don’t know what they want sounded ridiculous..of course you know what you want!
I didn’t understand that knowing what you truly want happens when you can better answer “who am I?”
Turns out it takes our whole lives to figure that out!
I keep being surprised to discover more aspects of who I am..
I finally watched Heal – the documentary with my family last night. I’ve been wanting my children to understand how the mind-body-soul connection works with disease.
I am always more inspired about the power of who I am after watching these cases. There is a remarkable way our body can heal itself through meditation, energy medicine, EFT, epigenetics, reiki healing, the subconscious mind with our spiritual connection driving it all.
If you want to maximize your health in 2021 – it’s worth the watch – just discern for yourself what to take away.
It was a good reminder of the natural intelligence we carry in our mind’s consciousness through our beliefs, emotions, and the ‘entanglement’ of energy that exists between us.
Who You Are with One Thing is Who You are with Everything
Over the holidays I asked my children to pull together all our photos from our last family vacation. I wanted to create one of those photo albums that can be printed.
I’d done these in the past and gotten behind! They said, “but mom we already have a video!” My daughter had captured our trip to Costa Rica set to music and captions – it was awesome.
We watched it again on our family room tv chrome casting it from my son’s phone as we were finishing dinner. It was so easy to re-visit all the fun memories!
I thought “maybe I don’t need a photo album -WHY do I want that?”
But for me, there’s something different about having a variety of photos from our phones (everyone’s perspective) & the camera that I can sit and browse through in a physical book.
I had to slow down to notice that..
- I prefer reading a book in hand over a tablet although I do both now.
- I’ve been accumulating Xmas ornaments from far-off places we’ve visited over the past 20+ years. When this time of year rolls back around, I love to unwrap the ornaments because they spark memories.
- I prefer writing over creating a video.
- I have boxes filled with old cards and letters from people who’ve touched my life in meaningful ways.
- I have stacks and stacks of journals filled with writing since I was a teenager.
- I keep emails alphabetized by first name.
- I have a binder filled with lots of pieces of my soul-development journey.
This is me.
Until I see myself clearly, I cannot answer my own WHY for what I WANT?
Who are you? What patterns do you notice about the things you like to do that others don’t necessarily do?
I used to follow a lot of what was expected by those around me not knowing what I really wanted.
When you set a goal for what you want, alot of getting there requires letting go of the outside noise so you can tap into your own deeper WHY bother?
Going through a photo album I can relax, slow down and reflect. It’s the same way I love spending time with a friend (now over zoom) having an amazing conversation.
It’s the same way I can get lost in a spiritual book seeking out my aha moments. It sparks joy and connects me to my soul.
What’s Underneath Your Goals?
One of my goals is to reach my ideal weight, which has been ~5 lbs away from where I am (that’s become 7 lbs over the last few days of chocolate, chips, wine, and too many yummy meals!!)
It’s the weight where the majority of my clothes will feel more comfortable, and I feel more at home in my body.
Another goal is to be healthier, more flexible, and stronger.
It means exercising more when I’d rather be doing ANYTHING else!
If I really want to achieve these health goals for life – there’s an aspect of me I have to find that connects more deeply to who I am.
Where Your Soul Personality Comes into Play
There’s a part of your personality that was “God-given”. It is your POTENTIAL of who you can become to feel aligned, alive, and at peace. It’s you tapping into the dream of you.
If I don’t connect with this POTENTIAL of the higher ME, it’s going to be difficult to reach my goals and stay there.
I may change, but transformation requires more than just working hard and getting a result.
How I can get there also includes ME engaged with the presence of my divine fragment – the Source of all Creation. This pre-personal aspect of you wants to help you reach your highest potential.
I’ve noticed I receive a lot more divine intervention, insights, and signs & synchronicities show up like crazy whenever I’m engaged with activities that grow my soul.
How can you achieve your 2021 goals, desires, and dreams to create your best year ever?
By tapping daily into this ‘invisible resource’ – the divine part of you. Something more meaningful gets ignited here that allows you to not only make a change, but transforms the way you show up in life – permanently.
There’s a Great Plan you are a part of that is evolving you to live a higher level of experience. It encompasses you living your version of what’s true, beautiful and good for your soul.
Robin Sharma says “when you transform your fitness, you transform your business” because you are more focused, have more energy and you feel better.
If I can reach more people with my soul work because I’m more focused, energized, and feel even better – that’s my deeper WHY. I feel most alive when people experience the magic of their soul.
What’s your deeper WHY? What will your goal give you for your sense of purpose or what you value?
That’s what will drive you towards your goals.
A Morning Routine is Crucial
If you haven’t watched Robin’s 4 Best Habits – his structure has helped me for years set up my own soul plan with his 5 am club being the most valuable piece.
Part of my morning routine includes connecting with my “divine fragment”. I will light a candle, or burn incense, and do sun salutations while listening to a “soul song”…here’s one of them.
One day I was listening to “Eternal Flame” – a 1988 song by the Bangles. The words sounded different this time. It was like my indwelling presence of the Creator was talking to me.
An indescribable feeling of recognition suddenly lit me up.
Tears welled uncontrollably.
A deep awareness of what has been here all along came over me.
It was an experience of profound unconditional love.
I had connected with my soul on a whole new level just listening to what I thought was a love song.
What Do You Want?
Since we can only know ourselves where we are, it’s important to understand “where AM I RIGHT NOW?”
Here’s a tool I use with clients called your “soul wheel of life”. You can google “wheel of life” and find other ones, but I’ve added sections to include the soul aspects of your life, the “being” behind your “doing”.
For each section, ask yourself “how satisfied do I FEEL in this area of my life right now?” 1 = not satisfied at all. 10 = I’m totally satisfied.
This gives you a ‘helicopter view’ of your WHOLE life to see which areas are low. When you join the dots, it shows you how bumpy a ride you currently have, and your goal is to make it smoother, calmer and more exciting for whatever you want as you move through your year.
At the end of the year, or quarterly, you can assess again to review your own progress.
Some areas may not be where you WANT, but assess based on how you FEEL right now about it.
You may be fine with where you are right now even if it’s not where you want it to be so it isn’t a priority for a goal.
Spirit Will Lead You
This morning I stumbled upon something critical for how I want to reach more people. I subscribe to Seth Godin’s daily blog. I don’t always read it, but today I was led to a video clip where he said:
“You can’t be seen until you learn to see.”
It reminded me of Steven Covey’s 5th principle: seek to understand, THEN to be understood”
One of my goals is investing time in marketing. Something I’ve avoided for years! I need to find a way to FEEL good about marketing knowing it means stepping into my dream of touching more lives with the wisdom of the soul.
I want you to experience your soul, but there is a gap between what I understand, and what you care about in your life.
Seth explained “we don’t get to claim attention – it’s not yours. You don’t get to interrupt us, it’s not your privilege. But if you can truly see us, understand us – have the empathy for who we are, and where we’re going, then it’s not an interruption when you show up. Then we love hearing from you…we want stuff that’s about us, we don’t want email, we want ME mail.”
It made me STOP, and think of my ideal audience – WHY are you reading this right now? What’s in it for you?
How can I make the soul work I write about more valuable to you in your life?
I’ve always just felt so grateful you are reading this at all.
The challenge of writing is it’s one-way. It’s easy with my clients or those I’m teaching because I have the opportunity to see and know who they are and where they want to go.
So here’s my way of closing the gap to add more value in the coming year to you dear readers. I invite you to share your answer to these questions:
What is it you want to know about the soul, spirituality, the mind-body-soul connection that will help you in your life? Was there anything valuable you took away from reading this today you want more of?
Please send to carolyn@carolynhidalgo.com
Until next time…Namaste : ).
The Divine in me sees, believes, and knows the Divine lives in you.
May this understanding help you with your goals for 2021.
Happy new year!!
May it be lighter, brighter, and filled with more soul moments you can take with you into eternity.
