You get disappointed and you often wonder what’s underneath your disappointment? You wanted your favourite dish at a restaurant, and they’ve run out. You invest tons of time, $ and energy into a project, and it fails. You don’t get the...
I get asked to clarify this question a lot: when am I being selfish as opposed to simply choosing what I want? Does it feel like you are chasing after the things you want? Do you find yourself trying to control, pushing hard to get somewhere, or...
Freedom of Expression as a Right In a world where we believe our fundamental right is freedom and freedom of expression, I have to agree with Pope Francis: “If my good friend Dr. Gasparri says a curse word against my mother, he can expect a...
It is very hard to recognize when we are blaming someone, but easy to recognize if you are the one being blamed! Why is that? We naturally feel anger, and frustration when someone fails to say or do what we need or expect because we know what...
How Do I Forgive the Unforgivable Recently I came across a free documentary called “Beyond Right and Wrong”. It addresses situations of unspeakable acts that are considered by anyone to be unforgivable. Do you have someone in your life you cannot...
I was at Starbucks the other day, and couldn’t help overhearing a conversation between 2 young lovers having a heated conversation sitting just a few feet away. The woman was trying to tell the guy why she ‘needed some space to think about...
People say and do things that can create a lot of hurt, frustration, and pain in our relationships. I’ve often wondered ‘how can someone do that. Why can’t people have healthier conflicts? Think that? Behave that way? What’s wrong with...
The other week I was having a conversation with a dear friend I haven’t spoken to in years. She confided that she felt guilty sometimes after reading my blog believing she wasn’t loving without conditions, and thought of herself as a...
How Connections Help… I used to get inspired by what people could do. What was accomplished. The results. How can I do that? What did I need to learn, and what work did I have to do? These days I recognize that what inspires me is the...
When we hurt – our emotional reactions can take us over where the pain is so overwhelming we can’t think straight, and start behaving in ways we don’t recognize as ourselves. Anger, frustration, confusion can be mixed with a...
Are You Judging Someone? This is the question I am asked most frequently: “am I judging someone if….”? The vision I have for a judgment-free world began when a long-time friend I trusted judged me. I felt such a painful sense of...
“Trust is not necessary when you don’t want or need anything”…from someone else. ~Neale Donald Walsh Myth: Trust is about always being honest. Truth: Trust is about being honest, and in alignment with yourself where you...
