Carolyn Hidalgo

Are you still figuring out this thing called love? Love can be the most complicated and the most exquisite experience of our lives. The soul is a piece of this puzzle, and of course our Spirit. Some wisdom I’ve learned so far about the most one of the most important questions ever — what is love? I used to hear how you have to love yourself before you can ever really experience love. What could “I love you” mean if you don’t love yourself first? It sounded logical, but I still didn’t understand how you could love yourself since you are you – unless there were 2 of you… That was before I discovered I was a “spiritual being having a human experience not a human being having a spiritual experience.” Me being spiritual means I am carrying a divine fragment of Spirit within my mind so there really is “2 of me” here! Who AM I includes what was given to humanity over 2,000 years ago …  the “Kingdom of Heaven is within you”. It was the awareness that changed everything for me. God is the higher ideal of divine LOVE that’s already part of you. You are LOVED already, but to feel & know this love, we have to go within and harness this connection. Here’s a profound Lesson on Love: The Infinity of Love If you picture in your mind the symbol used to represent infinity — a figure eight on its side — you’ll see that when you write this symbol, it contains two semi-circles enjoined, having no end, but which also contains an intersection where the two semi-circles meet. This is the cycle of eternity where the infinite and the finite meet, where God reaches down to man and where man reaches up to God. This is also how the River of Life flows from paradise to the worlds of time and space, and back again, in an endless procession, and in an endless exchange of love — the perfect love of the Creator for His children and the perfecting love of His children for the Creator. It is difficult for your imperfect, finite mind to understand this infinity of love. You may understand how to feel it another person, a child, a parent, a spouse, a friend, but how do we understand how to love our Creator Father when He seems so far away from us, so intangible, untouchable? How do we really know if we love Him, and how do we know if it is reciprocated by Him? The answers to these questions, my friends, are relativities to our understanding of Truth, Beauty, and Goodness. This infinity of love is something that becomes more real to you as you ascend by faith and as you bridge the gap with your Adjuster through the living experience of doing the Will of God — by allowing the exchange of this powerful emotion to flow in both directions. With love, there is trust, and this trust only comes with increased communication, with loyalty, and with devotion. When we reach out in faith to our heavenly Father with childlike affection, we trust that we are secure in our standing, and that we shall achieve the prize of God-like perfection through our father-like actions. When we show kindness, mercy, and tolerance of imperfection to our brothers and sisters, and on into each succeeding life station in our journey toward paradise, we will finally understand the infinity of love, where the intersection of imperfect love becomes perfected love, and where we receive the embrace of the Universal Father. The value of knowing perfect love is not in the achievement of intersection, but in the journey — the astonishment, the struggles, the triumphs, the joy of adventure, and the discovery of what it means to know and to do the Will of the Creator — to be participants and partakers in the creation of the cosmos and the realities of sublime grandeur. Those children whose parents were deficient in providing this most basic of spiritual needs may find it difficult to express it as a growing adolescent and then adult. Love IS a spiritual reality and because your cultures and societal memes separate spiritual realities from material realities and give emphasis to the “seen” while dismissing the “unseen,” there are myriad interpretations of what it actually is. A child may be “loved” by its parents, but only to the degree that the parents understand what it is. Some adults believe that by providing only material needs to a child is to “love,” and so the child perceives the security of its parents by having its physical needs met yet is missing the deeper spiritual significance of true nurturing. It is the dysfunctions of this understanding of love, or the absence of it, that confuses so many and creates this false sense of self-hood—a disconnected spirit—a separation from God (reality), and so the ego compensates for the absence of this emotion and attempts to protect the heart by making the self “important.” This is why we need to have affection towards everyone on this planet, for it is not only in alignment with the Will of God, but it is the one thing that draws the soul into unity with God. To move a whole planet into “Light and Life” requires a greater understanding of love by all its inhabitants. To love is to understand—to understand is to know the character of God—to know His character is to “be” the light of love to others. ~Opheilus and the Circle of Seven. Your true “soul-mate” is this divine part of you – your eternal partner that leads you to real love and for me is the true meaning of “loving yourself“. “Devote your life to proving that love is the greatest thing in the world. Love is the ancestor of all spiritual goodness, the essence of the true and the beautiful.” ~Christ Michael (Jesus) speaking to John after he’d arisen. “Seek after those values of Truth, Beauty, and …

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If you wish to transform your life in 2023, here are the 4 pillars that you need to strengthen… At the end of each year I hang out with 3 soul sisters I’ve known for nearly 2 decades. It’s part of a year end tradition that includes 4 pillars to create miracles and transform your life in 2023. Amidst the pure joy, laughter & crazy delicious food, we take time to reflect and create the first key element of what I call my “Soul Map” for the year:  Your Soul Theme It’s one word that captures how you want to BE in the new year. In order to achieve what you want, who do you need to BE more of? Some examples are alignment, joy, calm, and focus. It’s like your secret compass for the year ahead gently guiding you through tough moments and encourages you to step into what may feel uncomfortable. Looking Back  We first reflect on the past year sharing how our current soul theme played out in 2022. What happened? How did we handle? What did we learn? Mine was “ownership”. It meant stepping into ownership of what spirituality means for me and getting creative on sharing the “hard to believe” soul pieces. A soul theme calls you to step into new territory. Be a little bolder. Do what feels hard and scary. It asks that you surrender, trust and go. Once you decide on a theme, your unseen guidance team (angels, Master Spirits, celestial teachers, past loved ones etc.) will place subtle or not so subtle opportunities for you to experience. Their purpose is to help your soul to grow while you’re here. You may not recognize opportunities unless you are slowing down to pay attention and can trust your own vibration for what feels right despite what everyone else is doing. The more connected you are to your inner compass, the more often you will experience amazing signs and uncanny synchronicities. It’s like you’ve been sprinkled with Magic Soul Dust that allows you to see and hear what you couldn’t before. My 2023 Soul Theme The soul theme that came up for me was FLOW. It doesn’t always show up right away, but some things were already leading me here and it seemed to pop in as if it were whispered in my ear. It had me thinking of balance and growth – giving/receiving, Yin/Yang energy, and how our outer world keeps reflecting your inner world as you tap deeper into your own truth. Once you choose a word, suddenly its meaning will find itself working its way into your life. It’s like how they say a book writes itself. I added this message to my screen saver to remind me of FLOW: Is there a word that feels like it’s calling you grow? What state of being are you wanting to experience more of to transform your life in 2023? What feeling are you seeking? 2. Your Morning Ritual My early morning ritual includes playing a song while doing sun salutations to connect my mind body and soul with Spirit (my divine fragment). I have a personal name for my “Higher Spirit” that I encourage you to find so you can develop what I believe is the most important relationship you have – you with your Divine self. It’s this conscious connection with your fragment of God that is a gateway to creativity. This part of you is “impersonal” meaning it doesn’t have personality because it takes on yours through your life experience here, but it is also “personal” to you! One day way into the future, on the other side, the “Greater Plan” is for you to be “as One” or fused with your fragment of God. When I take time in stillness to connect each morning, my will connects with God’s Will to help me adjust my thoughts towards the highest vibration of what is all-powerful, all-knowing, and everywhere present to create what I desire. “Thy kingdom come, Thy Will Be done” … I never understood these words meant, but today I have such respect for keeping our “free will” sacred. The freedom to think for yourself is a spiritual birthright so whenever powers of control, imposition or dictatorship appear in ANY form – be on guard of agendas that may appear to be “good”, but are really darkness (unbalanced egos) in disguise. For prayer to work (practice of asking and receiving), it’s your thoughts you are developing through your internal divine relationship for desired changes to come to fruition. Morality and ethics come from a much higher place we can all tap into. Our journey here is learning to trust your vibes or listen to your intuition, which recognizes you are connected to something much bigger than you. The spiritual quality of our thoughts or willingness to choose how to think using our imagination and creative power determines who we become and the life we can experience on earth and the hereafter. When you make a decision to daily connect and communicate with the highest will of what IS love, truth, beauty and goodness – your life becomes that which you are. Music – An Avenue of Divine Connection A few songs on my TA playlist are “Eternal Flame” (the Bangles), “I Believe” (Nikki Yanofsky), “Believe in Me” (Paul Janz). I can imagine the lyrics coming from my Divine self or Cosmic Compass, and experience a feeling of total AWE or unconditional love. The most powerful love songs secretly speak from our true soul-mate – the divine part of us that is love. Learning to love yourself requires taking time in stillness to bring yourself into alignment with your true self. This year one of my soul sisters suggested we have a song to go with our theme, and a few songs came pouring in for FLOW .. “Let the River Run” (Carly Simon) & Come Sail Away (Styx). Your guides often speak to you through music and lyrics – as …

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Whenever I’m approaching the end of a year, I find myself reflecting on what matters MOST to help set intentions for the new year. Long ago, I used to set goals, but not anymore. Instead, I create intentions with an expanding library of SOUL WISDOM I’ve learned to apply as I grow. This way, I avoid falling into the trap of “all of nothing” from chasing what I want and opt for creating into what I want. Ultimately, the experiences that matters most mysteriously and magically unfold to surpass any goals I could have set. Instead of life being an uphill struggle of tough work to get results — its a upward evolution of hard work I enjoy that brings in the life experiences that fill my soul. I often find myself thinking “how exactly did I create all this”? I love what I do, how I’m growing, who I connect with, get to serve, and of course my treasured friends, amazing colleagues and beloved family. There have been many spiritual teachers I’ve learned from over the years, but this little one’s life philosophy struck my soul chord. He was so wise beyond his years. Timeless Soul Wisdom I first met Mattie Stepanek watching Oprah as a stay at home mom. I was absolutely stunned by the words coming out of his mouth. He was 11 and suffered from a rare disorder, dysautonomic mitochondrial myopathy. It sounded like an angel was speaking about what mattered most in the world. I vowed that I would share his wisdom with my 3 children one day. His soul signature helped awaken me to my own spiritual path. When Oprah’s 20th anniversary DVD collection came out in 2005, I watched the segment with Mattie again. He had lost his battle at 13 the year earlier, and watching his full life story here was packed with soul wisdom I couldn’t fully appreciate back then as I’d just begun my own inner journey. Since my twin girls and son were only 4 and 5, I still had some years before I could share Mattie’s life wisdom. I didn’t want to scare them about death, but also wanted them to understand that our life here is eternal. I picked up his poetry book, Journey Through Heartsongs & would every so often read his poems to them. When they finally seemed old enough, I pulled back out Oprah’s DVD, and played the ~11 minute clip: Mattie’s Soul Wisdom Seeing this little boy’s body trapped in a wheelchair hooked up to a breathing tube and hearing about his words of wisdom and all he had already accomplished felt surreal. Would my kids understand? It was a first reality check of how our children filter through their generational lens with their life experiences. Seeing a little boy whose body was in such terrible condition was simply “unfamiliar” with little understanding of his pain. The meaning of his words they couldn’t grasp. It was the start of a big dilemna  – how do I teach spirituality to my children? Another few years passed before I shared it again. This time, there were questions. Why do bad things happen to good kids? It’s been a few years since I watched his story AGAIN, and every time I’m more tuned in. I hear more … and so do my children. It’s the nature of timeless soul wisdom. We are continuously “attuning” with a higher part of ourselves. It’s like there’s a place for you to bring your life into the spaces. The spiritual path is highly personal and is solely your own. When I tell my clients that ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE, it’s Mattie’s soul wisdom – his heart-breaking yet deeply enriching short life he LIVED that tells me what’s possible for all of us. I know for sure that when I find ways to integrate soul wisdom, my vibration changes and the signs and synchronicities follow reminding me that we are supported by a Loving Source. I invite you to find a quiet space to soak in his wisdom: About Things That Matter It matters that the world knows we must celebrate the gift of life every day in some way, and we must always remember to play after every storm. It matters that the world knows all children are truly blessed with the innocent gifts of gentleness, trust, and compassion, which should guide the wisdom of grown-ups. It matters that the world knows we each have a song in our heart that can inspire us in good times and hard times if we take the time to listen. It matters that the world knows our senses can help us discover the hidden and non-hidden enchantment in life, if we use them fully. It matters that the world knows we must choose our words and wants carefully, or we could forever hurt others with these dangerous weapons. It matters that the world knows strength and value of all things created must be measured by character and commitment rather than by might and wealth. It matters that the world knows we must heed the valuable lessons of everyday life through the celebration of children and heartsongs, senses, and words or we could lose in our journey to the future. It matters that the world knows a person by my name and being existed with a strong spirit, and eternal mindset to become a peacemaker for all by sharing the things that really matter. ~Mattie Stepanek, June, 2001, age 11 Take some time to reflect on these words in your life. What do they mean to you? Where do you need to embrace the wisdom here to have new thought or take new action? Remember to play after every storm because what’s always here is the love in your heart that nourishes your soul. If ever we needed to be listening to the wise voices of our children – that time is NOW. Will you join me for a Soul Masterclass on Integrating What Matters Most? Click here to register! Discover the …

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Have you ever wondered how integrating spiritual wisdom into your life could impact it positively? If yes, this is for you… I read a little book a while back that seemed to be on every coach and thought leader’s “recommended book list”: I would not have read it based on its title, but it was personally recommended by one of my coaches as a “classic”. I know …. don’t “judge a book by its cover” or its confusing title! It was not what I expected .. a powerful short story that I didn’t put down until the last page. I told myself I would go back one day to take in its enlightening wisdom of the ten scrolls… Paying Attention to Signs This book was published in the year I was born – 1968. Yeah – I’ll take that one! It has 111 pages. Definitely one of my signs. The author passed away in 1996 – I got married that year. Another sign? It’s the kind of book you have to be ready for. Are you wanting to harness the kind of universal spiritual laws we all know exists, but can’t seem to apply into our lives? Sneak peak at Scroll II of X: “I will greet this day with love in my heart. For this is the greatest secret of success in all ventures. Muscle can split a shield and even destroy life, but only the unseen power of love can open the hearts of men and until I master this art I will remain no more than a peddler in the market place. I will make love my greatest weapon and none on whom I call can defend against its force.” Imagine if the truth of these words LIVED in the deepest part of you? Do you believe in the power of love at the soul level – beyond the subconscious mind down to the energetic experience of the soul-mind? How would your life be lived differently if love was ever-present? It wasn’t only a great story – it was packed with “9 success insights” – the first scroll detailed commitment to the practice. To apply the wisdom of the ten scrolls seems to be a combination of prayer, affirmation and hypnosis all rolled into one. Thoughts get into your mind’s consciousness from the day we arrive with everything outside you put your attention on. These days we are bombarded with the mostly fearful stimuli, so our minds need a spiritual intervention! Some call our mind a bad neighbourhood with all the negativity that can get in there. The purpose of any spiritual practice is to help you become more aligned with your divine self to have a clear space to create the world you want to live in. Dream big. Imagine wildly. Enjoy life on your terms, but in alignment with truth, beauty and goodness. For some of us the deeper practice is going out into nature, meditating with the breath, being present, or attending a place of worship. For me, it’s been digesting spiritual writings, and applying their insights into my relationships. Using common sense, but trusting in the magic. What has the power to transform your life needs to tap deeply into your divine self. When a book has reached 50+ million people worldwide, and is still selling hundreds of thousands of copies each month, I pay attention for the universal spark. Universal spiritual insights that cross social, religious and cultural barriers resonate for a reason, and will stand the test of time. Why I Love the Classics Wisdom from long ago holds a secret energy you feel deep within where you know you can trust yourself and follow its bliss. When I feel in me what millions have felt over thousands of years – I have the inner confidence to play full out. Other classics with similar wisdom include: ~As a Man Thinketh (1903 by James Allen) ~The Master Key System (1912  by Charles Haanel) ~Think and Grow Rich (1937 by Napoleon Hill). Profound success thinking. Here’s a few more: ~The Celestine Prophecy (1993 – James Redfield) ~The 7 Spiritual Laws of Success (1994 – Deepak Chopra) These all share similar “spiritual principles” that when applied has you following your right path. Your own voice will resonate with the Universal Voice so no matter what anyone else believes you should do – you will know how to BE. It’s in this space that “we are ONE”. It does not mean life won’t be filled with ups and downs, challenges and heartaches, but you will consistently be moving on an enlightened path forward with your unique definition of success. The Greatest Salesman in the World So many pieces of this little story resonated! It’s familiar in ways that shake your soul. When I first read, I didn’t have the space to apply the wisdom as it recommended. I was raising 3 children with a husband who travelled and worked long hours, and taking on life coaching as a new career. After continuously reading spiritual wisdom over more than a decade & applying bits and pieces to my life – miraculous things have happened I cannot explain fully. I believe there is power in nurturing your mind with high vibration thinking that follows universal spiritual wisdom . It’s the real secret to success in every part of your life. Does mastering any of these sound like it could improve your life tremendously? I Commitment II Love III Persistence IV Miracle V Time VI Emotion VII Laughter VIII Value IX Action X Guidance What if I added on the wisdom from other spiritual writings too? I’m wondering… There’s so much that has crossed my path – it can be daunting to figure out “how do I share all this?” How We Transform Towards our Deepest Desires Universal wisdom is only valuable if you can apply it. When I look out into the world today – it feels obvious so much isn’t working well. Imagine if you could draw from  your …

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It’s Thanksgiving here in Canada this weekend. A time when families come together presumably with feelings of gratitude. If you’re someone like me who’s been looking within to follow the beat of your own drum, it’s often accompanied with some tension (to put it mildly) from your “family of origin”. Last year, Thanksgiving was challenging at our family cottage shared among my 5 siblings & our families. Our beloved cottage of 30+ years where I feel thankful beyond words to have so many wonderful memories – it was the first time I wondered if I might never come back. A year ago today, the only way for us to sit down together for Thanksgiving dinner at our cottage was for myself and my children to sit outside due to one family member’s opposing opinion. Differences of opinion are inevitable, but when they arise from fear – complaining, blaming, demanding, imposing, and lecturing behaviour shows up loudly.  It’s not the first time this sibling and I have found ourselves with strong opposing views creating tension. So many families these days have been torn apart when opposing views create painful trauma and a need for forgiveness that never comes. Sometimes on this journey of awakening we simply grow apart because the vibrational gap between love and fear are too great. It’s the hardest to accept when it’s with our families. There’s a cost of trusting your own inner voice. As much as I love being here, if I can’t find gratitude amidst the messiness of our differences too much is lost. It’s the quality of our connections that make witnessing beauty worthwhile. Our judgments can destroy connections – even the most beautiful sunset no longer feels magical when this kind of energy is in the air. How do you put aside what doesn’t feel right inside you with the people you care about when you know they are feeling the exact same way, only the other way around? Both of us are right in our own minds. Here’s what has helped me greatly: understanding the divine purpose of relationships. Marianne Williamson shares this powerful wisdom here with Oprah describing a powerful metaphor of plugging “our lamp” in to connect the light within us. There’s a profound shift when you recognize and step into the knowledge that any relationship is “not about me – it’s about us”. Specifically, it’s about what each of us is capable and chooses to bring – energywise. You must take sole responsibility for the energy you are bringing to any relationship for it to be fabulous. Let go of what the other person brings! You have NO CONTROL here and thinking you do creates the problem. You cannot choose how someone else shows up as it’s coming from their mind which needs their control not yours.  If someone is triggering you with their opposing energy, it’s a call within to exercise patience, and seek understanding not necessarily agree, but to find your own inner serenity. The gratitude becomes for the lesson we’re being asked to learn whenever a conflict arises. Gratitude for the inner work of growing is right here in front of you to claim. How to Harness the Power of Gratitude Gratitude completely shifts your state of being. Your vibration increases to see someone from a different place. It’s easy to feel gratitude when everything is going well. When things are not, that’s when gratitude can show you its true power. The way to the other side of any conflict even with a family member without grudges, guilt or resentment begins by giving the hard thanks that this person is my teacher in this moment for my soul’s development. It has nothing to do with who’s right.There’s nothing to be fixed, justified or changed. Can I find the place in me that is thankful for this opportunity even when it doesn’t feel good? How can I show up to be the person I want to become? It takes practice to wade through the ego’s reactive emotions that arise with “how could you…”,  “I can’t believe you…”, “you need to understand…” Surrender these thoughts and the magic begins. Have you ever noticed that the people who have been through the WORST life has to offer have the most gratitude? Their experience of pain allows them to savour the smallest pleasure.  This 10 minute Ted talk from Louis Schwartzberg was passed to me by a friend who embodies gratitude after she endured horrific unimaginable conditions escaping Vietnam during their war. Louis recently released his latest documentary Gratitude Revealed that he introduced in his Ted Talk. It was beautiful : ) I was not surprised to discover his parents were both Holocaust survivors spending several years in Auschwitz. He grew up in a home where waking up and being able to open your eyes was a gift. Most of us have not experienced the unimaginable, and we’ve  been given so much that we take for granted. I need my own reminders to live in gratitude – I believe we all do. It’s the powerful secret to creating what you desire by raising your vibration to a state of feeling good at the soul level. It miraculously creates more of what feels better. Louis’s other powerful documentary Fantastic Fungi makes the connection between nature and spirit that can’t help but leave you feeling a total sense of AWE. This Thanksgiving here at our cottage, gratitude fills my soul. I can choose to put our differences aside and simply avoid talk of certain topics. That’s what works in my situation. Yours may require something different. Finding a way to your own healthy boundaries is up to you to create not for someone else to change their mind. Gratitude paves the way to create your happiest, most fulfilling relationships. Introducing a private Facebook Community … Conscious Leaders Seeking Fabulous Relationships I’ve resisted starting a community Facebook group for so long (censorship here & the way social media can be misused feels out of alignment), but I’m practicing …

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Are You Seeking Better Balance? I’ve always felt connected to the idea of finding a better balance. I remember someone once saying you can have it all, just not all at the same time. I took that to mean you had to choose between what was most important, and sacrifice something else, but do you? A Different Way towards Balance Life coaching taught me that balance is not about making everything equal in the areas of our life, but rather connecting to our values. Do you know your top 3 values, and are they finding their way to the top of your life experiences? Spiritual health and growth is one of my top 3, and it’s what gets the vast majority of my time. Connecting to this value deeply over the past decade has helped me find a better balance. Ever since I became a mother to 3 souls, and left my corporate job – it felt like I was forever seeking a balance between raising my children, coaching/writing, and managing everything at home. Often, it would feel like I was doing a gazillion different things at once without any kind of balance because there never seemed to be enough time! Eventually, I gave up trying to fit things into any kind of time frame. Instead, I simply focused on what mattered most and went for that. I added in daily spiritual practices, and somehow it seemed like all the pieces of life “fit in” and flowed forward with relative ease. Gratitude, living judgment-free, speaking my truth, exercising compassion, patience, understanding, being authentic, and staying out of fear…became my secret weapons. Last week I was introduced to something that helped me see more clearly HOW I got to a place where I feel well-balanced. It’s a sweet spot that can be best understood from an ancient Japanese concept called Ikaigai or your “reason for being”. Here’s what it looks like. Notice the 4 outer circles. 1) what you love 2) what the world needs 3) what you can be paid for 4) what you are good at All of these must come together for you to feel in balance or what I call “soul alignment”. What I realized was this model also applies at home with your children to find better balance! Think of your role as a parent here instead of your career calling. If you are a parent, your children are your responsibility in the same way you take responsibility for your career, only it’s an even higher priority – a privilege, and a gift. Switch out “what you are paid for” for “what you are rewarded for in appreciation, and all the ways your child loves you. “What you’re good at” must include not just what you do, but who you are as a parent. The center reflects where your love comes back, and as you grow to be a good parent, you create a child that the world needs. Where You’re Out of Balance When you grew up – ask yourself were there any circles missing that would have had your vital early experiences out of balance for you? I grew up in a very “doing” results-oriented family. I was longing for a more “being” connection and purpose-driven family. We need our being to lead the doing for balance. When one of the four outer circles is missing, you’ll experience your soul being out of alignment in these ways: 1) Satisfaction, but the feeling of uselessness (missing: what the world needs). 2) Delight and fullness, but no wealth (missing: what you can be paid for). 3) Excitement & complacency, but the sense of uncertainty (missing: what you’re good at). 4) Comfortable, but the feeling of emptiness (missing: what you love). As a mom, my highest priority was my children first, then work. The other day, my daughters went out for breakfast together and told me after “we talked about how grateful we are that whenever we needed you, you’d drop your work, and make us a priority.” For the vast majority of their life, I designed my life so that was possible. It wasn’t always, but it was enough. Pretty much every day I get hugged & feel the love at home : ) All these years, I was secretly wanting them to find this intersection. My children are all doing what they love, and are good at, and as students, all have been paid for their chosen pursuit …. what the world needs are people who have come alive. When you achieve Ikigai – your “reason for BEING” means your soul comes into alignment. How do you know? Amazing experiences magically flow to you. You will experience signs and synchronicities. You will be surrounded by the people you want to be surrounding you. Your life feels balanced because it’s always moving positively getting better with each passing year despite any messiness you encounter. The alignment here provides a balance that has the power to withstand whatever chaos shows up. As you move through your life’s challenges from this place you will keep growing your soul. That’s why you’re here. To your spiritual growth, Carolyn

The Little Trap of Punishment and Reward Have you ever thought that “the best can only be bought at the cost of great pain”? How about “no pain, no gain”? I am someone who already avoids pain being an Enneagram #7 (Enthusiast/Epicure), so I admit I’m biased with what I’m about to tell you. My soul growth is about leaning into pain, but there can be a trap here. In my life before soul awareness, I used to blindly accept some pain as “normal”. Not all pain is the same! Like the pain I’d feel going to tax class I’d dread (as opposed to psychology class I loved). The pain of struggling through writing 4 hour accounting exams, and auditing clients’ financial records. Pain from not being aligned within. Then came the painful exhaustion of trying to take care of my home, the finances, and being a mom to 3 little beings under age 3 without any awareness of “self-care”. Pain from being physically and emotionally tired. I kept needing to get it all done, and ploughed through somehow. I believed in reward and punishment back then. Work hard for a reward. The degree, position, money. Mess up and get punished. Isn’t that why we had rules, and how life worked? NOPE. Even for pain, there is no one size fits all. This morning I was back on our Peleton after missing a few weeks allowing my body to heal. I’m the last person you’d see sweating it out on a spin bike, but these days…I’m there! My favourite trainer is Emma Lovewell (guessing not her real last name) .. joining her ride is like attending a mind-body-soul inspiring class. Her energy pushes me through the pain I need to lean into for a healthier body. I LOVE that she has a deep connection to music (as former DJ) as music is a soul spark that keeps me engaged. She had me visualizing healing my re-curring cyst that I’ve nearly dissolved using overnight bentonite clay with coconut oil masks along with a pile of other lymphatic system catalysts (skipping rope, dry brushing and hot/cold shower). After enduring 2 surgical removals and antibiotics only for this cyst to emerge a 3rd time – here’s what I believe: 1) There are natural ways we can heal our body with ingredients from Mother Earth and better eating. 2) The power of our mind in touch with our soul can heal including visualization, but mostly by keeping our energy away from the resistance of constant “fight/flight” that creates tension and is the essence of reward and punishment. There’s a reactive quality to reward and punishment thinking that moves us towards control instead of letting go and trusting.  I keep reminding myself: the power that created our body can heal our body. When we tap into our highest light energy away from reward and punishment, a whole new approach to life opens up. Emma often says “this isn’t punishment” when she pushes me through a hard climb “its fitness”.  It’s the kind of pain I’m being called to embrace knowing it will improve my health. She focuses on “showing up for yourself”, and “by stretching your limits you are growing”. Her attention is on being kind, and compassionate with yourself without taking yourself so seriously. I could put my attention on the numerical stats that pop up on the screen, measuring how I last performed, comparing myself to others on the leader board, and checking things off a list. It’s what I used to do to get results. Today I’ve learned to BE to get the experiences I most desire. Show up for what matters. I focus on “does this FEEL aligned to ME”? There’s a different energy here and its more powerful than reward and punishment. It happens when you begin living your own uncomfortable truth. Too often we are more comfortable with everyone else’s truth. Here’s the Trap of Punishment and Reward Punishment breeds fear. Fear can get results. It also creates stress that harms your body. Reward is also a trap because it breeds a different kind of fear. You can get attached to needing rewards (money, position, recognition). Sure, it can also bring results, but at the cost of becoming controlling. What if you could enjoy what you want and keep expanding into more of what you want? Here’s a couple questions to ask yourself: How can you trust more what’s true for you? Are you willing to step into the kind of pain that helps you discover the real you, own your own truth, and follow your heart? From a place of trust within, your sense of fulfilment and love can only grow. BE what you want and everything you desire will unfold. Your results will be delightfully better than you expected. BE the love. Be the connection. Be the difference. Be the ease. Watch as you become the flow in your own life.  Let go of the little trap of punishment and reward, and the kind of pain you need to let go of will surface. The kind of “growing pain” your truth, your beauty and your goodness needs to grow will also emerge for you to embrace. What pain do you need to embrace today?

How Your Body Can Heal Itself There are countless stories of the body miraculously healing from past trauma, dis-ease, dis-order, and dys-function. The kind you need to hear with your own ears or see with your own eyes to believe. Growing up, I would tune in to stories my grandmother shared… A pregnant woman would walk past a severely crippled man sitting on his porch, his legs contorted from a rare disease on her daily route to work. Though the expectant mother tried not to stare, her gaze would catch a glimpse of his horrific condition and quickly turn away. My grandfather, a doctor in British Guyana delivered the baby. Her child was born with the exact same rare condition. How could that be I wondered? Then came the stories of all the ways a growing fetus is affected by what the mother sees, hears, feels, ingests – so not just physically, but emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. Expectant moms intuitively know that glowing during pregnancy energetically makes a difference to a new soul. A classmate (and second cousin) in my 6th grade class had a visit from her deceased grandmother who appeared at the foot of her bed to gently announce: “I will be seeing you soon”. This cousin was soon diagnosed with leukaemia, and passed away shortly thereafter. People could see and hear their lost loved ones?  I spent the summer with my twin cousins in England when I was 10. My Scottish aunt shared how her mother remembered details of another life as a soldier. You could be born again to another life? She would look down and vividly see army boots. Noticing what shoes you were wearing I’d later discover was a very common experience during a past life regression. My aunt believed if you still had important lessons to learn or amends to make – you’d be back for another trip. I would tuck these stories away not knowing how to process them. Stories without a scientific or logical explanation. Perhaps you have a few of your own? I couldn’t easily sweep them under the rug as “nonsense”. More unexplained stories came along because my thoughts were now tuned into a different frequency I was paying attention to. I’d put them together like a giant jigsaw puzzle searching for pieces until one profound spiritual reality would make itself known, and then another to make sense of it all. As a teenager, the placebo effect told me there was something we were all missing. How could you have a physical response to something when nothing physically actually changed except your belief in it? It made me PAUSE. Labelling something an “effect” doesn’t explain anything. Somehow your beliefs – what you think about could become your reality in some mysterious way. Our choice of thoughts carry not only our emotional vibration, but a spiritual frequency deep in our superconscious mind holding energy at a quantum level. As you are the chooser of your thoughts – you have the power and potential to create your life. It’s why the term “thought adjuster” from the Urantia Book made sense as the term used to describe the personal fragment of God living within our consciousness! The Creator Source living in you can adjust your thoughts to a higher vibration for any challenge, problem, desire when you ask and choose to align your thoughts and move into action for the higher truth, beauty and goodness. You get to decide whether to align your free will with a higher Divine Will (truth, beauty and goodness whose essence is love), which becomes you exercising your imagination. Turns out that power can also heal you. The mind, body, and soul need to find balance in order to function optimally, happily, in ease and harmony, but also in coherence spiritually. A few weeks ago a dear friend forwarded me an interview with Dr. Sandra Rose Michael. It takes alot to surprise me these days. Let’s say I’m still in awe. I bet you haven’t heard of her either? Dr. Sandra Rose Michael has lectured at the United Nations, MIT, the World Health Summit, the Harvard Club, London’s Royal Society of Medicine, Mount Sinai Medical School, the Scalar Research Experts Conference, Tesla Tech, Regenerative Technology and Anti-aging Congresses, as well as numerous medical schools and Ministries of Health worldwide.  Knighted for her humanitarian service, Dame Dr. Michael has served on the board of the Global Foundation for Integrative Medicines and as a Commissioner for the International Tribunal for Natural Justice. Her technology has miraculously healed thousands of people including senior officials in government who were near death and “elites” who recognize the tremendous value for their health. She created a healing technology in the 1970’s that uses zero point energy. I’m sure you’ve head of this .. Zero-point energy (ZPE) is the lowest possible energy that a quantum mechanical system may have. Unlike in classical mechanics, quantum systems constantly fluctuate in their lowest energy state as described by the Heisenberg uncertainty principle. This healing technology gives me hope for the future knowing all the ways energy can be created to heal and sustain life. Another example was in the film The Need to Grow showing we have the technology to sustain our soil and grow food in abundance without ANY chemicals. Can you imagine a world in the distant future without dependence and addiction to chemical pills and all their side effects? Who doesn’t have an allergy, dis-ease, dysfunction, or disorder to something these days that depends on chemical medication? It’s the rare few. Given our advancements, our health should be the other way around, don’t you think? We’re more sick than ever before. Sandra’s work is NEXT LEVEL healing to help reverse what has too often been a quick outer solution to a bigger inner problem … the kind I imagine Jesus was talking about when he said: “Truly, truly, I say to you, whoever believes in me will also do the works that I do; and greater works than these will …

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When I first heard of letting go of our goals in favour of holding intentions I was intrigued. Was it really possible? I really learn more about creating with intentions. Setting those SMART goals and achieving them felt like the only way to succeed at anything! I’d written out this “Definition of Success” in one of my earliest (falling apart!) journals as a teenager…not understanding what it all meant. The power of intention is like a feeling of inner knowing you hang onto. Definition of Success To laugh often and love much; To win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; To earn the approval of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; To appreciate beauty; To find the best in others; To give of one’s self without the slightest thought of return; To have accomplished a task whether by a healthy child, a rescued soul, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition; To have played and laughed with enthusiasm and sung with exultation; To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived; This is to have succeeded. ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson What I didn’t know back then is how you can hold an intention inside of you with it’s frequency raising your light vibration. And, work on creating with intentions. It’s like you planted an invisible seed waiting to be nourished. Success is all about BEING. It’s those ever-lasting experiences you create that are worthy of survival value because whatever grows your soul will light you up. Being kind, compassionate, generous, loving. Making a difference in your own creative way. What if the more powerful way to create comes from intentions that light your path for who you need to BE to accomplish what you want? What we most value isn’t measurable. There’s an unexplainable sense of what rings our truth bells that aligns somewhere deep inside of our being. Our intentions can be our pilot lights. Instead of setting goals reflect on “WHY do I want WHAT you are wanting?” What exactly will it give me? Our “felt experience” for what you can imagine is needed to start the process. The power in reaching the goals you say you want lies in the intention you hold living underneath. An Experience I Really Wanted I always wanted twin girls since I was very young. Imagine if I set that as a goal? It would feel ridiculous! But I imagined experiencing how incredible it would be raising twin girls of my own. It felt completely plausible and wonderful to me. I had the advantage of being close to my cousins who lived in England – twin girls my age. I noticed their connection was special, and not like regular siblings. It’s an example of the power of intention I didn’t know at the time. Allowing yourself not only to want something seemingly impossible, but to step into the intention of having it requires faith. I NEVER told anyone I wanted twin girls. It felt silly. But I kept an article from advice columnist Ann Landers (a twin herself) on how to raise twin girls – just in case. I didn’t remember until years later I’d had done that! Yet I jokingly said to my husband right before my 13th week ultrasound – I‘ll let you know if we’re having twins! I’d been “hanging on” to this intention… It wasn’t until I read Wayne Dyer’s “The Power of Intention” that I started connecting the dots looking back at my life. There are mysterious ways we are intentionally creating all along. What may seem random, or mere coincidence unravels to reveal a reality that you can participate in. Our “friendly universe” is highly organized and has your back when you are willing to step into your own imagination. “God” seeks your unique creative expression towards what’s true, beautiful and good. The greatest block in achieving what you want seems to be the disconnect between the world of science and logic that wants certainty & proof versus another reality of spirituality. And that’s when creating with intentions comes into play. Remember that creativity is really spirituality because the Creator lives within you to co-create with. The most profound wisdom seems to come from those who play in both science and spirituality. Einstein being one of the greatest examples. As both a physicist and creative genius, Einstein recognized the power of our imagination: “Imagination is more important than knowledge. Knowledge is limited. Imagination encircles the world.” ~Albert Einstein Science is a source of knowledge – what we think we know based on proof using the finite mind. Spirituality is what fosters imagination – what we believe based on the experiences of the infinite mind. We tend to put religion, science and creativity in separate boxes, but together you will have an expanded reality that is more unified. “All religions, arts, and sciences are branches of the same tree.” ~Albert Einstein Einstein referred to God often yet as a scientist said: “The word God is for me nothing more than the expression and product of human weaknesses, the Bible a collection of honourable, but still primitive legends which are nevertheless pretty childish.” On 12 April 1930, Einstein attended a concert where the Berlin orchestra played Bach, Beethoven and Brahms. After the performance, he said: “Now I know there is a God in heaven.” We can all recognize the brilliance when an artistic endeavour surpasses what feels possible to become God-like. Tapping into the Source of Creation living within us is the secret to harnessing the power of intention. Take this idea into all that is natural found in ourselves and mother nature, and suddenly everything feels connected. “Look deep into nature, and then you will understand everything better.” ~Albert Einstein Look deep into your own spiritual nature and you will understand yourself better. I am constantly amazed by the miraculous ways our true nature brings the truth back to light. Science is our attempt to solve problems, and we do, but …

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