Want Healthier Conflicts?

People say and do things that can create a lot of hurt, frustration, and pain in our relationships. I’ve often wondered ‘how can someone do that. Why can’t people have healthier conflicts? Think that? Behave that way? What’s wrong with...

The Secret to Loving Without Conditions

The other week I was having a conversation with a dear friend I haven’t spoken to in years. She confided that she felt guilty sometimes after reading my blog believing she wasn’t loving without conditions, and thought of herself as a...

Are You Judging Someone?

Are You Judging Someone?

Are You Judging Someone? This is the question I am asked most frequently: “am I judging someone if….”? The vision I have for a judgment-free world began when a long-time friend I trusted judged me. I felt such a painful sense of...

The Secret Practice of Letting It Go

For years, I kept hearing about the power of surrendering or letting it go, but wasn’t really sure what it meant, or how it worked. Until I struggled with emotions of resentment, total disbelief, and disappointment when a long-time friend I...

Giving Our Children High Self Esteem

Inculcating High Self Esteem Among Children A couple years ago, my 3 children arrived home and told me someone had written in black marker on the girl’s bathroom stall door: “F*#^  You  _____ Hidalgo. I wish you were never...

How to Live from Love Not Fear (Ego)

Living from love not fear requires self-management of our ego’s ‘inner critic‘ that finds fault, and your ‘inner judge‘ that condemns. Making ourselves, and others wrong fills our world with drama, gossip, and...